Truth be told, not everything is created equal and life IS unfair. But that doesn’t mean some people are entitled more than others—not because of their color, blood, or whom they choose to love. In a “developing” country, still, a lot of Filipinos seem to be narrow-minded, ill-mannered, and backward thinking. I know, I know, we have a long history of why we are what we are—that is just the same for everybody else. Blaming history is getting boring when you can “be the change you want to see in the world.”
I could go a week just enumerating all the sexist remarks the world speaks of on a daily basis but here’s a list of common phrases I used to utter (because that’s what I grew up with), but now cringe at. I am aware that all of us are guilty of using one or all of these phrases, myself included. But as I grew up, I started filtering values taught by my family, school, and society. I did not believe something was right or unacceptable just because they said so. It is not rude or ungrateful. I call it respect—for myself and for others. There is courage in standing up for what you’ve always known, but there is more bravery in acknowledging that you suck.
“Kababaeng tao…” or “Kalalaking tao…”
This is a classic. What’s more gut-wrenching is we ourselves perpetuate it everyday—woman to woman, mother to daughter, brother to brother. “Kababaeng tao, ‘di marunong magluto.” “Kalalaking tao ang daldal.” A woman is supposed to close her legs and do the chores. She can be fun—but not loud. A man is predestined to provide, or else, shame on him. He has no right to blabber or nag, that’s a woman’s job.
“Tomboy/Bakla siya? Sayang naman.”
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: For those who say that people who belong to the LGBTQ community are “sayang,” pwede ba, take your twisted mentality elsewhere. Their sexual orientation does not strip them of their capability to love, nurture, serve, or what you’ve always been pointing out—reproduce. Not only because their number is growing and growing, but because…science. They were not born to benefit your gender. Not even their beautiful genes were made for your sake. So STFU.
“Kaya naman pala, babae ‘yong driver.”
Kaya naman pala, sexist ka.
“E lalaki e.”
Boys will be boys daw. When a woman cheats, have you ever heard someone justify it with, “E babae e.” Despite the scientific data of why males are more inclined to do mischievous and disrespectful stuff, I refuse to just shrug off someone’s repulsive tendencies just because he has a dick.
“Bakla ka pala e,” or in our president’s words, “Bayut ka.”
Homosexuals have no problem about you being straight, so what’s your problem with them? Yes, Coco Martin was right: hindi masama maging bakla. Since when did this label become an insult? Since your dad said you can’t cry because it makes you gay. Since your buddy told you to stop freaking out over that flying ipis because “para ka namang ‘di lalaki e.”
“Ano ka, chicks?”
Someone’s looks don’t entitle him/her of anything unless you make it so. In Filipino context, “chicks” are pretty women by default and it actually entitles them of many things—hatid-sundo, dinner, gifts… But the point I want to make here is, doesn’t everyone deserve all that just as much as a good-looking being with a vagina? The next time you refuse to give your “bro” a lift home, you better come up with a more valid excuse than hindi naman kasi siya chicks. Also, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with ordering a bottle of SanMig Apple, kuya.
Son of a bitch. Napaka-gaya gaya talaga ng mga Pinoy. Why don’t we just curse with the Tagalog word for “shit”? “Tae ka!” or “Ay, tae!” Sounds so much better to me than insulting women and mothers. Wala namang putangama ‘di ba?
The list goes on. ALL genders suffer from discrimination and double standards everyday. I hope everyone who reads this makes a conscious effort to watch their words and what they teach their children.
Photo not mine.